We are all guilty of doing things that don’t always paint us in the best of lights. On the flipside, we can probably list many annoying habits of those we are close to.
Likeability, is, after all, an incredibly popular adjective, and a trait we all look for in human beings, so when people’s bad habits slip into their daily routine, it can get on many people’s nerves. Here are 10 habits that can make you unlikeable.
1. Talking about yourself
Self-indulgence is a trait no one wants to come across because it takes away any value you might have and is placed in the hands of someone who thinks their life is more worthy than yours.
However, that person might actually be you. And while we are by no means dismissing your right to talk, if you don’t let anyone else speak, and aren’t prepared to show much interest in the person you are projecting your feelings and problems onto, it’s unlikely they are going to appreciate what you have to say.
2. Being too serious
While people are drawn to the passionate, creative and ambitious, it can be a bit jarring if they only talk about their work and refuse to have fun and entertain doing anything non-work related.
Life is too short to simply focus on your work and nothing else. Falling in love, forging great friendships, and enjoying being alive, are, in the grander scheme of things, far more important.
3. Always being late
Being late is something we’re all guilty of at times, but those who are late on a daily basis become incredibly irritating to the people kept waiting. It is inconsiderate and rude to agree on a time and then turn up 30 minutes later.
Tardiness just isn’t attractive, least of all to employers, so unless you’re a rock star, it’s better to keep a better track of time if you want to keep friends on your side and remain in a job.
When we achieve something we’re proud of, it can be natural for us to become braggadocious and air our accomplishments on social media, even if our intentions are good-willed.
Masking your attributes and talents by downplaying them and fishing for compliments is equally as nauseating and an insult to people’s intelligence. In fact, they will see right through you, and instead of letting the accomplishments speak for themselves, they will go off that person and see them as a narcissist and bragger instead of a successful person.
5. Always being on your phone
Smartphones are a prevalent part society, so much so that you’ll see at least a dozen people looking down at their phones rather than at their natural surroundings. While this is somewhat acceptable when alone, staring at your phone with other people is incredibly rude, and can make that person feel as though they are not worthy of your attention.
It’s immature and rude, and if you still find yourself scrolling through your Instagram feed when you’re at dinner with a friend or partner, then you should really try and get out of this habit before your friends start to lose their cool with you.
Telling people you know a famous face or two is fine, but if the name-dropping persists, it can show an evident lack of insecurity on the part of the name-dropper that they are not comfortable enough with their own life and accomplishments.
People instantly recognize those who are begging for attention, and while it may be innate in you to whittle off dozens of stories about the time you teed off with Tom Brady, it’s best not to overindulge people in stories that merely involved a famous name.
Despite gossiping being a habit we generally consider to take place in the school playground, adults are just as guilty of it, and many aren’t afraid to bitch about their colleagues to fellow workers and friends.
While it may seem harmless, it can highlight the insincere nature of the individual doing the gossiping. Even those partaking in the gossip will realize this and be afraid to confide in that person for fear of having their confidential conversation compromised. If you’ve become a bit of a gossip yourself, learn to take the moral high ground and stop doing it altogether. You’re not 12-years-old anymore.
8. Being an oversharer
It’s good to confide in people you trust and let them know about the issues bothering you. After all, we are human beings and should learn to show compassion to those in need and who want to vent their feelings to others. However, if the person makes a habit of oversharing every detail of their life, it can become draining for those expected to listen, and in time, they may be less inclined to help that person.
It sounds harsh, but some people are often unaware that other people have problems too, and to continually air them to the world can come across as slightly self-absorbed.
9. Closing yourself off from others
Many of us do this when life gets too much. We might even suffer from anxiety or become so stressed with our work and personal life that we corner ourselves off from most people just to get through the day.
This isn’t something to be ashamed of by any means, but it does pose a problem further down the line when others become increasingly annoyed at your inability to be a team player in the office or reply to social invitations. People who stick to themselves can also tend to think only for themselves, and not entertain the opinions of others.
10. Being negative
Negativity can manifest itself into a state of perpetual misery not just for the person airing their grievances, but also those around them. We all have bad days and are allowed to feel down in the dumps, but if you are always in a constant state of doom and gloom and get off on being a bit of a masochist, then you should at least keep your negativity to yourself.
If you don’t, others around you will grow resentful, and invitations to social events and networking meetings will wane.